People can spend their entire lives looking for their most suitable partner. Some have an unattainable ideal in their minds that makes the search impossible. Others may choose a different partner over and over again without any real discernment, leading to a long series of breakups and heartache. Perhaps the greatest obstacle for people lies in their assumption that the most important criteria for choosing a partner is that the person they choose to love needs to be devoted to them and be faithful to them above all others. The truth is that if you want to have a suitable partner who you find yourself drawing ever closer to as the years go by, then the focus of both people involved needs to be on a much more important being than the two of you.
When I was a teenager, I remember seeing a triangle used as a visual aid in explaining how true love works. God is the top point and the two lovers, friends, or family members involved are the bottom points. If the two involved in the relationship love God more than each other, than in time it will be their love for the Divine that will bring them ever closer, like how a triangle narrows at the top point.
The more I give of myself to my God, the greater I find my love is for my wife, my children, and my friends. A stewardship way of life will eventually strengthen all our relationships, for a surrender to the One who is love means an increase in the love we have to give to others. For those who continue to search for the “one,” pause, pay attention, and see the One who has always loved you and will do so forevermore.
Tracy Earl Welliver, MTS is the Director of Parish Community and Engagement for LPI, Inc. He has a BA in theology from DeSales University and a MTS from Duke Divinity School.
Sometime over the coming month, about this time every year, I will make time to watch the movie The Exorcist; I bet your eyebrows have risen at this point in reading this. The movie is based on the book written by William Peter Blatty that focuses on a twelve year-old girl who is possessed by a demon and the investigation that ultimately leads to two Jesuit priests performing a major exorcism for her deliverance. I read the book when I was in seminary at Mundelein in 1998 for the 25th anniversary of the movie’s release; the book spooked me far more than the movie ever did and I remember not sleeping well for a few nights.
The book itself was inspired by actual events concerning a Lutheran boy in Silver Spring, Maryland whose family turned to the Catholic Church for help. The quest for help eventually took them to the Jesuits in St. Louis, Missouri where the boy was delivered from the power of demonic forces after a major exorcism in 1949. In the story The Exorcist there is a break in the ritual being performed by the two Jesuit priests. During this break, the younger priest, who is having a crisis of faith, asks the older priest why a twelve-year old girl; the older priest responds “to make us despair.”
The Lord gives us strong words in this Sunday’s Gospel reading from Mark: if your hand, foot, or eye are going to keep you from entering into heaven, then get rid of them. The Lord Jesus is telling us that there is nothing in this life be it material things, relationships, pleasures, behaviors, whatever that are worth risking the gift and the promise of eternal life with God in heaven. We are also warned sternly to be on guard that we do not lead anyone else into sin, because the punishment for that will be severe.
When faced with the power of sin, when tempted to lose hope because of evil in the world, let us always remember the words emblazoned under our Lord in the image of Divine Mercy: Jesus, I trust in you.
“Nothing we do as a good steward is more important than our relationship with Jesus. Your volunteerism, hospitality and formation is nothing without the beating heart of stewardship, which is your relationship to Jesus. Jesus is the example steward.”
When you give of your time, you are giving unselfishly because you will never get that time back. Consider this, if you gave $5 extra to the offertory basket this weekend what are the chances that you would get that $5 back at some point? Probably high because you might get a promotion, or a monetary birthday gift, or perhaps win on a lottery card. However, when we give our time toward deepening our relationship with Him, we prioritize this unselfish gift. You will never get time back. But isn’t that time with God a worthy sacrifice? Despite our busy lives, stewardship of prayer is an act of trust. When you are worried you won’t have time to make it to Mass, make time and trust. When you are worried you won’t have time to make it to Bible Study, prioritize it and trust. When you feel overwhelmed with your calendar, prioritize your relationship with Jesus, don’t squeeze Him in.
“Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.”
In 2014, I knelt in the pew at the Easter Vigil Mass having just been confirmed in the Church moments before. Many months of prayer, study, and conversion culminated at that moment, and my heart fluttered with excitement at the thought of receiving the Eucharist for the first time.

